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Avoid the Drama

Hi folks, this is an old post revisited, but it bears another look. Events of recent days has brought this home to me once again. For some people, it is all about the drama, but who needs it really?
We all have drama in our lives, we can’t escape it completely.  We can, however, avoid a lot of it, and the more we practice, the more we can escape it.  Drama, for the most part, is the work of an ego that is desperately seeking attention.  This is a distraction that we do not need.  Drama is like a fog that clouds your view, your judgment, and destroys your sense of well being.  It blocks your ability to learn, to focus externally, and is almost always focused on the negative.
For example, we all know people who, with their load of drama to share, can suck the energy from a room faster than a vacuum cleaner can pull dog hair off a hardwood floor.  The trick is to avoid getting pulled into the vortex they create.  We don’t always get it right, but we can get better with practice. We must, for drama will destroy the joy that every day can bring, and this is turn can destroy the body.  You have all seen a face that has been angry for years.  That negativity is etched deeply into the face and body posture, and you can be sure there are internal signs of it as well.
Here’s an example:  Years ago I was on the ferry boat leaving Vancouverand headed for Victoria. As the boat pulled away from the dock, I sat back to engage in one of my favorite pastimes, people watching.  I watched as two men entered the lounge and sat next to each other.  One opened his newspaper while his companion relaxed back with a book.  A few moments later the man with the paper began to frown, his face darkened, his grip on the paper tightened, and he started to mumble. Drawing his companion’s attention, he stabbed a finger at the newspaper page and spoke.  His companion nodded, then returned to his book, smiling as he continued to read.
This was repeated several times on that two hour journey.  Newspapers are especially crafted, as are news casts on radio, television, and internet news, to draw strong emotion from the reader/viewer.  They filled with drama.  Over the course of that short journey, the man with the paper continuously had his emotions manipulated by the stories he chose to read while his companion enjoyed the trip by choosing to avoid all that drama and read a book that made him smile. By avoiding the drama he was able to have a much more enjoyable trip.
I know it is hard to avoid the drama when it is in the room with you, carried by family and friends, but you must. Only by keeping apart from the drama can you remain non-judgmental, absorb new information, discover better solutions to problems, and enhance the quality of your own life as well as those you share space with.
This is a tough one, and we all struggle with it from time to time, but keep at it.  The rewards are worth the work.
May your journey be blessed, 

Language of Success

The musings of a meandering mind, or, messages from myself in another realm.
I have spent a few posts rambling on about focus. This time I’d like to take you deeper into the mad mind of the Seeker.
This is me meditating and this is one of the things I meditate on.
I shall begin with a discussion on one of my pet theories, the use of language and its effects on our daily lives. Language is how we communicate with each other, the world around us, ourselves, and our creator. I believe that we all create our own lives by the way we use language. The language under discussion here is English as it is my native tongue, but the observations may well hold true for many of the western European languages.

English, as we now know it, has its roots in a troubled history. It evolved during centuries of savage repression by both the religion of the day and the ruling classes. As a result we have far more ways to express the negative than we do the positive. This constant expression of the negative is embedded in the language and in the way we use that most powerful tool. It has been handed down through the generations and we continue to pass it on. It’s time for a change.
The Universal Life Force Energy (hereinafter referred to as the Force) is sentient and generous to a fault. It will lovingly present you with whatever you ask for; the key is in how you deliver the request. Focus on the negative and the Force will provide you with plenty of negativity to focus on; the daily six o’clock news is a prime example of mass negativity being lovingly supplied to an adoring audience. Ask and ye shall receive.
We are all energetic beings, break down the molecules far enough and you eventually arrive at energy, that’s all and nothing more. It is easy enough to imagine the influence of this constant bombardment of negative energy on the way you perceive and experience life. Unconsciously we focus on the negative, the toast burns, you get cut off in traffic, the new shoes don’t fit right, poor service at the coffee shop, the internet is slow, etc. It’s Ok folks, we’ve been trained this way for countless generations, and we are just following the programming.
Now we get to the good part; you can change this if you want to. The first key to a more uplifting, positive, and joy filled life experience is the use of language. (See, you knew that eventually I would get back to the point.) If you can change your use of language to a positive focus, the Force will begin to present you with more and more positive things to experience and enjoy. Better still, many of the small and mundane bits of your daily routine will begin to be less stressful, and perhaps even enjoyable. Alright, so how do we go about this great transformation? Here are a few hints, but I am saving some of the good stuff for future discussions.
• Begin with trying to eliminate all negative expressions from your habitual patters of speech. The more you practice this the better you get at it.
• Consciously change your self-talk to reflect only positive things, especially about yourself.
• Limit your exposure to newscasts and newspapers. (Perhaps cut down to two or three a week.)
• Regardless of what life throws at you during the day, speak only in positive or neutral terms. If that is not possible, remain silent.
Ok, I will admit that this one will be as tough as trying to quit smoking. If nothing else, please pause for a few moments and consider the possibilities of what I have said. Give it a try for a few weeks and see what happens, I wager you will be pleasantly surprised.
May your day be filled with love, laughter, and abundance.  Pru

So, what are your thoughts, feelings, and / or observations on this subject. 

Focused Thought

Since my last post spoke of re-focusing, I thought I’d pull up and old post on the subject and have another look at it. So, here we go:

Where you focus your thoughts will dictate your experience of reality. Please ponder this for a few moments and let that sink in, it is vitally important. Here is a small example of what I mean:

A man has a huge fight with his wife before leaving for work. In his anger he drives too fast and gets a ticket. At work he is still seething and cannot seem to concentrate; his work suffers, he snarls at his co-workers, they snarl back, and everyone gets to have a bad day. Worse yet, his boss is displeased with his work and chews him out. This poor soul is not having a lot of fun, his life isn’t working for him, and we’ve all been there before. Focus on the negative and it shall be provided.

Now, here’s what thinking like a master can do for you. Our hero stops at the car and asks himself a question, “This day is going to hell in a hurry; how can I turn this around and enjoy the day?” He turns back to the house where he apologizes to his wife and takes full responsibility for the fight. (Regardless of who started it or who was right or wrong.) He promises to make it up to her that evening then drives carefully to work, aware that his adrenalin is high and he needs to keep himself in check.

Once he arrives safely at work he turns to his co-worker and asks her for suggestions, explaining how his day got started. She laughs and says she will help but he is buying the coffee. Now he has an ally instead of an enemy. With a plan in motion to smooth out the home front, our hero turns his focus to his work. Now he asks, “Today got off to a rough start, but it is looking better all the time; I want to keep the improvements going. How can I improve the quality of the work I do today and enjoy the process?” At the end of the day the boss praises his work; he has his co-worker’s list of ways to fix his relationship, and is on his way to the florist.

He arrives home just as his wife gets home from work; she has a six pack of his favourite brand and an action movie with her. She has had time to cool off as well, and accepts her role in the dispute. He gives her the flowers, tells her where he’s taking her for dinner, and they enter the house arm in arm; happy ending and nobody had to have a bad day.

Ok, so this was a best case scenario, but you can win a lot more often than not, if you think like a master.
Here’s a real example, a story told by a Reiki student of mine. Bob (not his real name) was a classic type A personality, especially behind the wheel of a car. One day, after a near miss in traffic, he called and we talked. He called again a few days later just laughing. An angry man had cut him off in traffic, shaking his finger out the window as he did so. Instead of chasing him down and having a brawl, as was his custom, Bob just waved at the man and called out, “Thanks for not hitting me.” This time, only the angry driver was having a bad day. Bob was well pleased with himself and had a wonderful day.

These little stories will help us to understand the simple reality of the motto.  Where you focus your thoughts will dictate your experience of reality.

Have you ever had a similar experience where you caught yourself and re-focused, thereby creating a far better outcome? Come on, share with Mamma Bear. 🙂
Live joyfully my brothers and sisters; laugh lots, love much, Pru